Thanks to Doulicia, I just stumbled upon a new blog, written by a male doula named Matt. I wanted to give him a shout out, and refer you all over to read his thoughts if you are interested. I think being a male doula (and a gay male one at that) deserves a radical doula mention.
I have thought often about this idea of male doulas and midwives, particularly because of my own thoughts about the gender binary. The argument among the doula and midwifery community that doulas can connect with women simply by being women themselves has always troubled me, as it implies some sort of intrinsic female-connection. What does that imply about women’s brains?
I think being a doula is about listening, and connecting with someone, and learning what kind of support they need. Just like I don’t think you need to be a mother to be a doula (I know some people would disagree), I don’t think you need to identify as a woman. Each person has to choose a doula they feel comfortable with, and with whom they can connect.
Keep on trucking Matt.