“This baby will never fit in your pelvis” and other absurd statements by providers

Just found this site called My OB said WHAT?!? with alternately sad/funny/appalling things that OBs have told their patients about birth. Despite the title, it’s not just OBs, but also nurses and midwives as well. It’s a testament to the fact that no provider is perfect, all of them are human, and many of them are pushing some really problematic ideas about birth.

A few choice ones:

Oh, honey, it’s too late for that!” – L&D nurse handing the mother a bedpan when the mother asked if she could go to to the bathroom.  The mother was 5 cm dilated at the time.

“You’re much too small. This baby will never fit in your pelvis. I can’t believe someone told you you’d be able to birth a baby vaginally.” -OB to a mother, upon meeting her for the first time, without an exam or medical history.

“Listen, if you don’t trust me to make decisions, you need to find another Doctor.”- OB to patient when asked about flexibility around options for delivery.

Oh come on, stop that. Suck it up!” – midwife to a mother shivering from the cold and epidural while being strapped to the bed, shaved, and prepped for an emergency c-section.

About the site:

The purpose of this site is to capture the crazy but true comments said to birthing women by doctors, midwives, doulas, lactation consultants, and childbirth educators when they are having their babies! Got a “My OB Said WHAT?!?” to share?? Send them to submissions@myobsaidwhat.com. And watch this site for more unbelievable but true comments said to women as they birth their babies!

Check it out here.


3 thoughts on ““This baby will never fit in your pelvis” and other absurd statements by providers

  1. My OB said WHAT?!? April 6, 2010 / 6:50 pm

    Thanks for the trackback! Glad you found us! Thanks for all you do to help the birth world change, one birth at a time!

    The MOSW team!

  2. Devon April 6, 2010 / 7:14 pm

    God that’s depressing– I just want to leave the country.

  3. The Deranged Housewife April 7, 2010 / 4:13 pm

    Even better, you can follow them on FaceBook, which means you can “share” one of these absurd stories with all your friends. Spread the word that this moronic stuff *doesn’t* have to happen to pregnant women!


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