Resources for lesbians who want to become parents

I recently spoke at the NYU LGBT Center, as part of a Queer Lunch series they have (called Quench). I was talking about the connections between reproductive rights and LGBT liberation. It’s a topic I enjoy discussing (you can check out an article I wrote about it). But after the talk, one woman came up to me and asked about resources for lesbians who want to start families. I realized that I had little to tell her, except to point her toward the parenting section of the LGBT library the center had created. So I went home and did a little more internet research, and here is some of what I came up with. Please, if you have more resources, post them in the comments.

The NYC LGBT center has a few support groups for queer parents.

Non-Biological Lesbian Moms Tell All

Confessions of the Other Mother: Non-Biological Lesbian Moms Tell All

How to Stay Sane and Care for Yourself

The Ultimate Guide to Pregnancy for Lesbians

The Essential Guide to Lesbian Conception, Pregnancy, and Birth

The Essential Guide to Lesbian Conception, Pregnancy and Birth

I looked at quite a few LGBT organizations, but many of them focused on the legal and policy aspects, where I was simply looking for resources about the options for a lesbian couple. Explanations about the choices to make (donor? artificial insemination? turkey baster? IVF? surrogacy? adoption? etc). I couldn’t find one that really satisfied this need, but Family Equality Council has some helpful info.

I also found quite a few blogs about lesbian couples making families:

Two Georgia Mommies
The incredibly true adventures of two lesbians in Georgia who desperately want to become Mommies to more than just their pets.

Cutest Little Babymakers In Town
Just 2 more gay girls trying to make a baby – and trying to laugh about it.

the incredible true adventures of two girls in love and trying to make a baby

It’s Taking a Village

A New Family
Our attempts, as a lesbian couple in the UK, at making a baby. Update: we are now pregnant!Lesbian Family

Anyone with more resources, please post!


4 thoughts on “Resources for lesbians who want to become parents

  1. hkornst1 November 6, 2007 / 4:42 pm

    Mazel tov! You’re such a super star! (sorry I don’t have more resources at the moment)

  2. crabgrass November 7, 2007 / 2:21 pm is my favorite lesbian parenting blog, with a great blogroll and a page of resources. Mombian is the other place to go for news about lesbian families.

  3. Rachel W November 8, 2007 / 6:45 am

    Confessions of the Other Mother is awesome. Good call.

    Miss you Miriam!

  4. Nora November 12, 2007 / 12:28 pm

    Hey Miriam! It was great to meet you this weekend. Another awesome resource (unfortunately just in the San Francisco area – is the Our Family Coalition –

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